I have yelled this before…”get this crying baby to sleep!” The sleepless night are though and all you want to do is get your crying baby to go to bed. Did you know there is a right way to put your child to sleep? The U.S. changed their Infant Sleep Guidelines this week to help parents reduce Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). They are recommendations, so don’t feel guilty if you cannot follow them.
Baby Should Sleep in the Same Room, But Not in the Same Bed.
This was always a recommendation, but AAP changed the length of time to six months. I tried to have my baby sleep in a bassinette in my room, but I just couldn’t do it. Every moan or grunt woke me up and I found all that happened was she slept in my bed…with me. I was happier when I put her in her crib in her own room with a monitor. I found that I needed my space in the evening. I needed time with my husband and I really didn’t want to co-sleep with my children. I am not bashing anyone who co-sleeps, but it really isn’t for me.
Stay on the Bed If You’re Tired and Feeding Your Baby.
Often mothers have to wake up in the middle of the night to feed the baby. The AAP recommends not to sleep in the same bed as your child, but they realize that tired mom and baby may fall asleep during the feeding. If you are tired and you think you will fall asleep make sure you’re on a bed and not a couch or chair. Yay! All mothers do it. They feed the baby and fall asleep. It will happen, trust me. During the 4 a.m. feed our baby would be in bed with us. I know I am contradicting myself here, but sometimes I would get so tired that this would be the only way I could get any sleep and function during the day. My baby would lie on my stomach and we would sleep together. After the first few times, I realized that we were both comfortable sleeping in bed together.
Baby Should Sleep on His/Her Back and Avoid Putting Pillows, Blankets or Toys in the Crib.
The stomach…no the back…When I was a kid the recommendation was for kids to sleep on their stomach. Then it changed to their back. My youngest will not sleep on her back. If I put her on her back she won’t sleep at all. After three days of her not sleeping…like at all, I tried her stomach. Magicly she slept through the night…at three days old! I was hooked. My reasoning for not following the recommendation is that I slept on my stomach and I was fine. Both my kids were stomach sleepers — this is where they were most comfortable.
As I said these are recommendations. Us moms have to choose to follow what we feel is best and not feel guilty about it. We have to do what we can to survive.